So as I expect my dearie to be back from a trip home tomorrow :D today's thought about me liking him more from a distance is warranted :P . It might be just me or it might be the truth for people worldwide, that you feel the love for your loved ones more when they are away. While they are around they drive you crazy because they seemingly intrude into your space.
So I'm the kind who always thinks that the base for every strong relationship is mutual respect for each others need for the alone moments when you dont want any interference. As you might have guessed already I do consider myself a strong and independent woman. So by that logic one might think I would be destined to a life of little or no pampering, and lots of self reliance. But no.. as luck would have it my guy is slightly old fashioned, he comes from the school of thought that in a relationship the "guy" is supposed to do the heavy lifting, and the girl, well she's supposed to be all delicate, clueless and lost. And it is the "Guy's" responsibility to ensure all her needs are met and to keep her safe.
Well here it is imperitive that I mention that I'm a city girl who till now has fought her own battles, rode in buses, trains, tackled perverts, made her own decisions about almost everything ( lucky for me.. my parents have put in full faith in my judgement from ever since that I can remember) right from the clothes I wear, to the career I chose, to the guy I want to marry. The right phrase for my life would be "Zero Interference".
Now just imagine the meeting of these two different planets!! And just imagine my reaction when someone holds my hand to help me cross the road!!!! I'm like..."Dude! You have got to be kidding me. I was born in this city, I have seen this road being built and dug up and built so many times that I have lost count. On top of that I've been here so many times that I'm pretty sure I can do this blindfolded... and you think I need help crossing this road???" But when we are on the other side and he is still holding my hand and just smiling at me I just say this to myself "Screw it! I'll be strong and independent some other day, being a damsel in distress is much more rewarding". But the moment I notice him reading my mind, to reclaim the image I tell him, "I can do this without you holding my hand you know.." This is where he feels caught for caring so much, but shamelessly he says " I cant risk it" with a smirk and we go on with his chauvinism in place and my pride intact yet so satisfied with being so different yet so complete that its almost perfect.
Not to say it doesnt get on my nerves sometimes, it does. Too much of a good thing is also a bad thing. Right? I know the girls reading this might be thinking.. show off.. Just because she has a caring boyfriend she thinks she can rub it in. Well... guilty as charged. But trust me their are days (And they come often) when I really miss my single days. Those were the days I was really free, I know I had to buy my food, fund my own rides, do my own chores. But there something about that life that is very fulfilling too. And sometimes I wonder why cant I have the best of both the worlds. Or when the urge is real strong, I feel why cant I be alone and free again.
But then days like these come when he's miles away with little contact, when I have all this me time when he can't interfere even he wants to because he's not around. And then no prizes for guessing what I want to do... I just want him interupting my "space" with his sickeningly sweet romance again!!!!! I'm such a psycho!!! :P But he cant know this... it's good to keep on their toes :P the moment they know they are valued they start acting pricey... these boys :P ...
Oh how happy I am... you will be back tomorrow :D
Sunday, 12 May 2013
Thursday, 9 May 2013
Funny Drunk People
I know none of my posts ever link to each other, but that's the way my brain works; its one thing today, the other tomorrow.. bottomline its always something :) .
Alcohol is the is what has my spirits up (pun intended) today.. so as today while a few minutes ago some people I'm very close to came home drunk .. another person I'm very close to as well is pretty pissed :P .. Fact of the matter, while the drunk ones would have no recollection of what nonsense they talked tonight, the "Pissed" would continue to be angry for a few days to be optimistic, maybe weeks if the anger levels are higher than usual.
The reason being aside, its funny how different people have different ways of handling alcohol. Some laugh incessantly, some cry over the dumbest things, some get into brawls for no apparent reasons. Some also end doing things they would regret the very next day, a few examples: getting married, making out with a married guy, calling up you ex and telling him/her you still want them back, calling up your parents and telling them you're drunk or just talk endlessly about how you think you're boss has horrible fashion sense with your boss, who by the way is in complete senses and is taking note of each and every word you say and would use it against you at you next performance review. But hell you don't care, you're having a great time! Aren't you? The morning after would be a different story altogether, with the hangover and the amnesia and the horror of discovering what a disaster of a mistake you made yesterday. But right now is a great time.
You know who is this situation the best for? The friends who are sober and are completely aware of what fool you are making out of yourself, they just cant wait for the morning after when they can recreate the whole incident in front of you (with added insults of course) and watch you fall into a pit of embarrassment as you think of a way to escape the country without running into anyone who saw the the drunk you.
I used to be pretty proud of the fact that I could hold myself pretty nicely even if half of my blood becomes alcohol, I used to be almost completely aware and well in control. Then for the want of a better lifestyle and a slimmer waist ( not necessarily in the same order of importance) I gave up drinking. It was then when I lost the gift, and its been only once that I've lost complete memory of what I did during that one time. Lucy for me everyone else was drunk silly too :P except one :D Who was too shocked to use anything against me :) This was a long time ago too.. But the morning after was a complete blackout, I didn't even know how I got into the bed or how I changed my clothes! And when this realization came.. I was like Yeah!!! I had my first knock Out!!! And yes it was fun!!!!
So now when I see drunk people, I find it so much fun seeing them being silly and having no qualms about it, and that's why I love alcohol for having this ability to let your spirit free ( Pun intended yet agin!!, infact probably that is why they are referred this way.. what do you think?? )
Alcohol is the is what has my spirits up (pun intended) today.. so as today while a few minutes ago some people I'm very close to came home drunk .. another person I'm very close to as well is pretty pissed :P .. Fact of the matter, while the drunk ones would have no recollection of what nonsense they talked tonight, the "Pissed" would continue to be angry for a few days to be optimistic, maybe weeks if the anger levels are higher than usual.
The reason being aside, its funny how different people have different ways of handling alcohol. Some laugh incessantly, some cry over the dumbest things, some get into brawls for no apparent reasons. Some also end doing things they would regret the very next day, a few examples: getting married, making out with a married guy, calling up you ex and telling him/her you still want them back, calling up your parents and telling them you're drunk or just talk endlessly about how you think you're boss has horrible fashion sense with your boss, who by the way is in complete senses and is taking note of each and every word you say and would use it against you at you next performance review. But hell you don't care, you're having a great time! Aren't you? The morning after would be a different story altogether, with the hangover and the amnesia and the horror of discovering what a disaster of a mistake you made yesterday. But right now is a great time.
You know who is this situation the best for? The friends who are sober and are completely aware of what fool you are making out of yourself, they just cant wait for the morning after when they can recreate the whole incident in front of you (with added insults of course) and watch you fall into a pit of embarrassment as you think of a way to escape the country without running into anyone who saw the the drunk you.
I used to be pretty proud of the fact that I could hold myself pretty nicely even if half of my blood becomes alcohol, I used to be almost completely aware and well in control. Then for the want of a better lifestyle and a slimmer waist ( not necessarily in the same order of importance) I gave up drinking. It was then when I lost the gift, and its been only once that I've lost complete memory of what I did during that one time. Lucy for me everyone else was drunk silly too :P except one :D Who was too shocked to use anything against me :) This was a long time ago too.. But the morning after was a complete blackout, I didn't even know how I got into the bed or how I changed my clothes! And when this realization came.. I was like Yeah!!! I had my first knock Out!!! And yes it was fun!!!!
So now when I see drunk people, I find it so much fun seeing them being silly and having no qualms about it, and that's why I love alcohol for having this ability to let your spirit free ( Pun intended yet agin!!, infact probably that is why they are referred this way.. what do you think?? )
Friday, 3 May 2013
Facebook Crazy
I'm not sure how many agree, but I somehow feel that people today have become so obsessed with they want the world to perceive them that they've forgotten the fun in living in the moment and having it frozen as a memory to cherish. Rather they would have it as a photo to upload on their facebook page, or maybe google+ I don't really know what's more popular these days. But i know this for sure, life isn't about making special memories anymore, its about letting the world know! It should look as if you're having a great time, that you are surrounded with people, lovers, friends, family everyone and of course having the time of your life.
I really dont understand this need, why must your life seem perfect to those who don't matter, because those who matter are there with you in the moment which you fail to enjoy to the fullest as you are too busy striking the perfect pose for your latest display pic. I think I've grown sick of this whole thing way too soon, come to think of it I wasn't that hooked on to it anyway. I have now turned more into a social stalker, to know what's going on in peoples lives, you know.. the kind of stuff gossip sessions used to be for :) .. now we very readily provide gossip material and now we dont seem to mind it. Gone are the days when mere acquaintances talking about you and knowing your regular haunts used to creep one out.
Its not that its all bad, I can recall so many instances where I was able to locate a childhood friend whom I had lost touch within a matter of seconds, separate instances where I was able to recongnize old schoolmates (rather them recognizing me :P I have perfect memory when it comes to faces, names is a different ball game however :D ) but I don't I dont like the idea of putting so much information out there.
Not that I'm paranoid or anything, its just that i skim through peoples lives randomly for no particular reason, there could some people who could be doing the same on my profile too, and not everyone is as harmless as I am :D.
Bottomline, in today's age of smartphones where the instant glorification of your great excursions is a swipe away, you've got to be careful what you send out there. You never know whose hands it might fall into....
I really dont understand this need, why must your life seem perfect to those who don't matter, because those who matter are there with you in the moment which you fail to enjoy to the fullest as you are too busy striking the perfect pose for your latest display pic. I think I've grown sick of this whole thing way too soon, come to think of it I wasn't that hooked on to it anyway. I have now turned more into a social stalker, to know what's going on in peoples lives, you know.. the kind of stuff gossip sessions used to be for :) .. now we very readily provide gossip material and now we dont seem to mind it. Gone are the days when mere acquaintances talking about you and knowing your regular haunts used to creep one out.
Its not that its all bad, I can recall so many instances where I was able to locate a childhood friend whom I had lost touch within a matter of seconds, separate instances where I was able to recongnize old schoolmates (rather them recognizing me :P I have perfect memory when it comes to faces, names is a different ball game however :D ) but I don't I dont like the idea of putting so much information out there.
Not that I'm paranoid or anything, its just that i skim through peoples lives randomly for no particular reason, there could some people who could be doing the same on my profile too, and not everyone is as harmless as I am :D.
Bottomline, in today's age of smartphones where the instant glorification of your great excursions is a swipe away, you've got to be careful what you send out there. You never know whose hands it might fall into....
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